A narcissist in court – how not to get played

For many victims of narcissists, court is the final stage of the battle — the place where they hope truth will finally triumph over lies. Unfortunately, narcissists can be excellent actors. They speak calmly, smile, and create an impression of reason and composure, while their victim often appears emotional, exhausted, and chaotic. That’s why preparation is essential — not only legally, but also mentally.

The most important thing is evidence. A narcissist lies effortlessly, so memory or word against word isn’t enough. Keep messages, screenshots, emails — note everything that can confirm your version of events. Document even what seems trivial. In court, facts matter, not drama. Every piece that can show a pattern of manipulation is valuable.

It’s equally important not to get dragged into emotions. The narcissist will try to provoke you, bring up painful memories, and push your buttons. They want you to explode — so they can play the victim. If you feel you can’t handle it alone, have a lawyer by your side who understands this personality type — empathetic yet firm, someone who can take over the conversations and protect you from manipulation.

And finally — emotional support. The process can take months, sometimes years. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. Therapy, a support group, or even a simple conversation with someone who’s been through the same hell can help you keep your faith. The narcissist wants you to give up — that’s when they win. But now you know how they operate. And awareness is a weapon they don’t have.